J_Dobie
Hello Ladies
Well, my name is Jamie, Im 23 and this is my first pregnancy... Im about 5 months now, a little more, and Im due in November. I haven't had a chance to see a doctor yet however... We were moving from CHicago to Minnesota and back again so much that I couldn't schedule an appointment, and then there was a death in the family, which just made it all so much more... impossible. But everyone that sees me, strangers, ffamily, friends, they all say that I look like Im having twins! I was showing at 3 months, and now I have felt some kicking on both sides... Im not sure, Im probably just paranoid, but still, the idea of twins is truly exciting... So that's about it... anything else, just ask, Im very open to discussion and would love tips, advice, and anything you might have to offer. Thanks.
posted 28th Jul '06
I posted this elsewhere, but I wanted to post it again in case someone comes across it and finds it helpful, its long but please read on...
Far too often when someone asks for advice, people feel its their civic duty to unleash a torrent of unsollicited and unwaranted ranting about what is right and what is wrong. But believe you me, the situation at hand won't be effected by the ideas of wether its right or wrong, morally speaking, to have a child at such a young age. In this world, it happens more often than we like to admitt, and despite opinions from strangers that lean one way or another, it is still going to happen. Now, instead of facing the morality of it all, and debating wether its right or not to be a mom so young in life, realize that the more pertinent issue is handling the what nows of it all. Instead of yelling at someone for their actions, take a step back and ask yourself what you would do if you were her. Already pregnant, going to face motherhood, no way to go back in time and prevent the situation. And whos to say that given the opportunity to do so, you'd do something different? Life happens at full speed, not in slow motion or in reverse. You want to hold on to every waking moment and not have to feel pain, but that can't be, and sometimes, GASP!, humans make mistakes and guess what ladies? Mistakes have consequences. But to call a pregnancy a mistake... that makes me ill. Why? My biological mother was 16 years old, a drug addict and made a mistake. She gave birth to a baby girl on Christmas Eve, the coldest one in many many years (And still the reigning record holder, 1983) and 2 days later I was adopted by a family that raised me and attempted to nurture me for a few years of my life... But at 14, I was employed taking care of myself and very self sufficient. I never imagines myself as a mother , I was terrified, and everyone around me was so opinionated and didn't understand that my heart would break every time they said or did something to negate my excitement towards the prospect of one day being a mother. But that did not deter me from doing all the right things in life. I was pregnant at 19, and 3 months into the pregnancy, my fiance and father of my child(Since then we have seperated and no longer talk) heard from a friend that there was a slight chance of a miscairrage due to rough sex, which he experimented with and it happened. I lost that precious pearl of life within me so early and never truly got over it. What I needed more than anything was understnding, patient and loving people to help me thru, but all I got were opinionated jerks that threw their words down my throat and expected me to concede, no questions asked. Now that Im pregnant, and my life is in a good directon, I can appreciate what a young scared mother to be goes thru. And also, its not just the young that have trouble. My "Mom" wanted me to have an abortion this time around and since I am having the child, married and happy, she won't talk to me without arguing about something. I don't think that my family is even going to throw any semblance of a baby shower, but my husbands aunt is throwing one for me. I have gone on too long and Im rambling, and if anyone is even reading this still Im suprised. The long and short of it is, human compassion for a tuff time is far more effectie than telling someone that they made a mistake, because that won't change the fact that life is happening. Be kind, please, to everyone here. DOn't yell at anyone, and ou won't be yelled at in return. Im here for support, kindness and compassion, and I will never judge anyone. If you ever need to talk to someone and don't know where to go, Im always here... And I know what you're going thru. Ill do my best
Far too often when someone asks for advice, people feel its their civic duty to unleash a torrent of unsollicited and unwaranted ranting about what is right and what is wrong. But believe you me, the situation at hand won't be effected by the ideas of wether its right or wrong, morally speaking, to have a child at such a young age. In this world, it happens more often than we like to admitt, and despite opinions from strangers that lean one way or another, it is still going to happen. Now, instead of facing the morality of it all, and debating wether its right or not to be a mom so young in life, realize that the more pertinent issue is handling the what nows of it all. Instead of yelling at someone for their actions, take a step back and ask yourself what you would do if you were her. Already pregnant, going to face motherhood, no way to go back in time and prevent the situation. And whos to say that given the opportunity to do so, you'd do something different? Life happens at full speed, not in slow motion or in reverse. You want to hold on to every waking moment and not have to feel pain, but that can't be, and sometimes, GASP!, humans make mistakes and guess what ladies? Mistakes have consequences. But to call a pregnancy a mistake... that makes me ill. Why? My biological mother was 16 years old, a drug addict and made a mistake. She gave birth to a baby girl on Christmas Eve, the coldest one in many many years (And still the reigning record holder, 1983) and 2 days later I was adopted by a family that raised me and attempted to nurture me for a few years of my life... But at 14, I was employed taking care of myself and very self sufficient. I never imagines myself as a mother , I was terrified, and everyone around me was so opinionated and didn't understand that my heart would break every time they said or did something to negate my excitement towards the prospect of one day being a mother. But that did not deter me from doing all the right things in life. I was pregnant at 19, and 3 months into the pregnancy, my fiance and father of my child(Since then we have seperated and no longer talk) heard from a friend that there was a slight chance of a miscairrage due to rough sex, which he experimented with and it happened. I lost that precious pearl of life within me so early and never truly got over it. What I needed more than anything was understnding, patient and loving people to help me thru, but all I got were opinionated jerks that threw their words down my throat and expected me to concede, no questions asked. Now that Im pregnant, and my life is in a good directon, I can appreciate what a young scared mother to be goes thru. And also, its not just the young that have trouble. My "Mom" wanted me to have an abortion this time around and since I am having the child, married and happy, she won't talk to me without arguing about something. I don't think that my family is even going to throw any semblance of a baby shower, but my husbands aunt is throwing one for me. I have gone on too long and Im rambling, and if anyone is even reading this still Im suprised. The long and short of it is, human compassion for a tuff time is far more effectie than telling someone that they made a mistake, because that won't change the fact that life is happening. Be kind, please, to everyone here. DOn't yell at anyone, and ou won't be yelled at in return. Im here for support, kindness and compassion, and I will never judge anyone. If you ever need to talk to someone and don't know where to go, Im always here... And I know what you're going thru. Ill do my best
I live in Minnesota
