I am 19 years old and I am married to a wonderful guy. We got married on Feb. 23, 2009.... we found out that we were pregnant with our first on Aug 4th... I am looking for people that are going through some of the same things I am. I was really hoping that it is a girl, but we will be happy with either, as long as it is health and happy... I cant wait to hear the babies heartbeat for the first time.When I heard the heartbeat I couldnt believe it was coming from a baby inside me.. i tear up just thinking about it   We just found out Dec 13, 2008 that we are having a baby boy. Damin was born April 19th at 11:20pm. He was 8 pounds and 1oz. He was 21 and 3/4 inches long..
About me: My name is Raven. I am pagan and I stand strong on what I believe in. I am open minded and very opinionated. I tell things how it is, and if you dont like it then, tough. I am also a good listener and I like to get to know people. If you want to talk, PM me.. Please do not pt me if I do not know you. I am for homosexual marriages, and homosexual adoption! I belive if you love the person it doesnt matter.. LOVE IN LOVE END OF STORY!! And I believe that gays/lesbians make one of the best parents!! I am pro-choice. Because we have no right to control others bodies, just our own. I also bottle feed, and its the best thing I could have done for my son. I like to debate and discuss a lot and set very strong on what I believe, but that doesnt mean I dont want to hear what you have to say. I am trying to make it to either be a teacher or councler for suicidal teenagers. I really havent decided. I am working on getting my GED, and I babysit on the side of being a SAHM... I like to laugh and have a weird sense of humor! I love my son more than anything in the world. I would do anything for him. He is my reason for waking up in the morning. He is my heart and soul.. I will protect him and stand by him. He will always know how much his mommy loves him.












































Mommy Survey

About You
Was your bundle of joy a surprise?: Yes a very big surprise..
How long did it take for you to realize you were pregnant?: 4 weeks
Where were you when you found out?: the E.R
Who were you with?: My husband
Was adoption or abortion an option?: nope not at all..
How did you tell the Dad?: he was there with me. he heard it for himself..
Were you married at the time?: Nope, engaged..
If not did you get married because you were pregnant?: nope, we were already planning on getting married..
Where was the baby conceived?: at our old apartment
Reactions
Yours?: I thought I was, but I still was shocked and cried!!
Dads?: He was shocked
His Parents?: They didnt seem happy at first!
Your parents?: They knew it was bound to happen..
Siblings?: They were happy I guess
Friends?: They were excited!!
Pregnancy
Did you like being pregnant?: Most of the time..
Did you want to wait to find out the sex?: Nope.. I found out at 19 weeks
Did you have any complications?: Kidney stones and a heart murmer
Did you crave anything?: a lot of things.. spicy food!!
Did you sleep alot?: Nope..I took tylenol PM to help
Towards the end how were you?: I hurt so bad!!
Did the dad support you?: Yes ALL THE TIME!!
Did you have any mid night cravings?: Yes, nachos... hahaa
Would you do it again?: yes.. I have to if I want another kid..
Labor and Delivery
What were you doing when you went into labor?: watching a UFC fight
Did you get drugs?: I tried but they didnt work
Who drove you to the hospital?: My husband
Vaginal or C-section?: vaginal
How long?: 24 hours and 20 minutes!
If yo got drugs, how long were you in labor until you got them?: I was in labor for 5 hours before they tried to give me my epi.. again it didnt work..
Was it as bad as everyone said?: hell yea.. it hurt like hell!!
What did you think the first time you realized it was "almost time" for him/her: holy shit I am going to be a mom!!!
What did you think the first time you heard him/her cry?: thats my son!!
Your first reaction whe you seen him/her?: I just started to cry!!
Dads first reaction?: He cried too!!
Who was the first person to come and visit you?: I dont know... EVERYONE!!
How long did you stay?: 3 days
Postpardum: huh?
What was the first day home like?: Stressful because I was alone cuz Jay had school!!
Did you have any trouble?: Not really!!
How long did it take you to reacover?: a few weeks
Did anyone come to visit?: my mom did a couple weeks later to help out..
Did you let just anyone hold the baby?: nope.. just family!
How did Dad do?: pretty good!
About the Baby
What is it like being a mommy?: its life changing!!
Is your baby difficult or easy?: he used to be easy till he started teething!!!
How old is your baby now?: 2 months
Colicy?: yes
Boy or Girl: BOY!!
Memories
Favorite pregnancy memory?: When we found out that we were having a son!
Worst pregnancy memory?: my kidney stones and morning sickness!!
Funniest pregnancy memory?: when i peed myself at walmart!
Scariest pregnancy memory?: When I thought I miscarried!!
Favorite Labor memory?: when Jason got to cut the cord and they put him on my chest!
Worst Labor memory?: the back labor!!
funniest pregnancy memory?: when my water broke!
Scariest labor memory?: when he was born he didnt start breathing right away!!
Favorite postpardum memory?: bringing the baby home..
worst postpardum memory?: PP bleeding.. and peeing whenever I did anything
Funniest postpardum memory?: laughing so hard i peed!
Scariest postpardum memory?: when Damin was in the hospital!!
Favorite baby memory?: When he first smiled at me!!
Funniest baby memory?: his first bath!
Worst baby memory?: when he threw up ALL OVER ME!!
Scariest Baby memory?: When he was in the hospital for 5 days with Jaundice
Parenting
Do you parent by the book?: nope.. never....
Are you a worrier?: yes I am.. I worry about EVERYTHING!!
Do you have the pediatrician on speed dial?: yes i do!
Have you ever called the doctor late at night?: No I havent..
Hows dad?: good... sleepy a lot..
Do you constantly read articles about how your baby SHOULD be developing and the: sometimes but i know he is developing fine!
Has your baby left your side yet?: yes a couple times..
Do you have your baby on a strict schedule?: we have a schedule but its not a strict one at 2 months..
Do you think your a good mom?: yes... THE BEST I KNOW HOW TO BE!!! DAMIN IS MY LIFE!!
Is the dad a good dad?: sometimes...













Before I was a Mom,
I never tripped over toys
or forgot words to a lullaby.
I didn't worry whether or not
my plants were poisonous.
I never thought about immunizations.



Before I was a Mom,
I had never been puked on.
Pooped on.
Chewed on.
Peed on.
I had complete control of my mind
and my thoughts.
I slept all night.

Before I was a Mom,
I never held down a screaming child
so doctors could do tests.
Or give shots.
I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
I never sat up late hours at night
watching a baby sleep.

Before I was a Mom,
I never held a sleeping baby just because
I didn't want to put her down.
I never felt my heart break into a million pieces
when I couldn't stop the hurt.
I never knew that something so small
could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much..
I never knew I would love being a Mom.

Before I was a Mom,
I didn't know the feeling of
having my heart outside my body..
I didn't know how special it could feel
to feed a hungry baby.
I didn't know that bond
between a mother and her child.
I didn't know that something so small
could make me feel so important and happy.

Before I was a Mom,
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night
every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay.
I had never known the warmth,
the joy,
the love,
the heartache,
the wonderment
or the satisfaction of being a Mom.
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much,
before I was a Mom .






My grandpa is the only man that ever understood me. He was like my father, best friend. The only one that I could rely on for anything. He passed away May 23, 2000, but it still feels like yesterday. He will always be close in my heart,







My third trimester!













A BABY QUIZ!!
1) How old are you?
-19 years old
2) How did you come to find out you were pregnant(what prompted test)?
- 1. I just felt pregnant and 2. my period was late
3) Is your babies daddy in the picture, and what status is your relationship?
- He is in the picture and we are going to be getting married soon.
4) How many weeks pregnant are you?
-11 weeks and 4 days
5) Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl?
- No... but my fiance wants a boy and I am hoping for a girl
6) How long did you have morning sickness?
- did? No i still do. I have had it since week 2!!!
7) What is your least favorite pregnancy symptom?
- Without a doubt.. morning sickness
8.) What is your favorite part about being pregnant?
- knowing that their is a little baby inside me thats a part of me and my fiance...
9) Do you plan to breastfeed?
- that is my plan.. my boobs hurt enough!! HOLY CRAP!!
10)What is your opinion on elective c-sections and/or inducing early?
- that is not what I want. I would like to avoid the c-section.
11)How many children do you have/is this your first?
- 2 angel babies and this one... this is going to be my first..
12)How many children do you want?
- We agreed on two... but after this pregnacy he is lucky if he is going to get one...lol... this has not been the greatest pregnacy in the world...
13)What is your favorite guilty food right now?
-ANYTHING SWEET!!!
14)What is the wierdest craving that you have had?
-when i can eat...probably garlic pickles...ohh yeah!!
15)What foods make you cringe right now?
-anything that has a scent...
16)What smells bother you that never did before?
- raw food... like when my fiance cooks meat... i have to leave the room...
17)Have you dyed your hair since being pregnant?
- i did when i was a like 1 week pregnant because i didnt know... i found out like 3 days later... whoops...
18.)How has your sex drive been since becoming pregnant?
- i have always had a healthy sex drive, but i would say that I am climbing the wall more frequenlty..
20)What is your waist measurement now(inches*)?
- i have gained some weight in my waist. Mostly bloating, but at almost 12 weeks it is a baby bump...
21)Have you had swollen feet/hands?
- nope not yet
22) Do you have pets, and if so are you keeping them?
- hell yea.. i have a dog and she has been my baby... since about 3 weeks pregnant, she has followed me around like 24/7!!
23) Do you still go to concerts etc.?
- I havent since i got pregnant... my responsibilities come first... But when Disturbed comes to Florida (if they ever come) I AM GOING... even if i cant go in the pitt..
24)How is your relationship with the father's parents/family?
- Its could... they are good people, and they are happy to have a new baby coming in the family...
25)Will your baby have the daddy's last name?
- Of course...
26)Will you paint babies toenails(if a girl)?
- i wont do it, but my fiance's mother is girly enough to paint her nails..27) If a boy, will you allow him to play with dolls if he wants to?
- If he wants to... They say boys who plays with dolls makes better fathers...
28.)What is your position on spanking when they are older?
- neither one of us believe in spanking..
29)What is your stance on immunuzations...yes or no?
- yes
30) WIll you be a stay at home mom?
- no i want to finish school and become a paramedic




1.age? 2 months
2. name?Damin Wayne Daniel Maquis
3. Birthday? April 19, 2009
4. time of birth? 11:20pm
5. how long did labor last? 24 hours and 20 minutes
6. who was in the room when baby was born? My husband, mother, my mother in law, my doc, and three nurses!!
7. how long did u push? 3 and half LONG hours!!
8. weight? 8 pounds 1oz
9. length? 21 and 3/4 inches long
10. any hair? yes a lot..
11. who does baby look like? His daddy..
12. be honest…how much weight did u gain during pregnancy? A proud 65 pounds.
13. was baby early or late? 3 weeks and 2 days early
14. who drove u home from hospital? My husband
15. how many baby showers did u have? One
16. when did baby start sleeping through the night? He still isnt..  
17. did u breastfeed? I did for 5 days, then started bottle feeding..
18.if not, what kind of formula? Similac Isomil Advance
19. who keeps your baby the most? I do.. he is a mommy's boy!
20. when do u wanna have another? Maybe in a year or more..
21.. how did u pick the name? My husband picked the first name and the middle names are after both our fathers..
22. how did u know when it was time to go to hospital? I didnt, my husband did. I thought it was another false alarm because I had been in early labor for 2 weeks before I actually delieverd..
23. What was your pain management? Screaming at everything.. I didnt have one.. my epi wouldnt work!
24. did u go home or somewhere else when u left the hosp.? I went home...
25. anyone spend the night with u first night home? Nope, just my husband...
All proud mommies fill this out..




















TAKE THIS SURVEY!
Take this survey

Are you a proud parent?
Yes I am
How many kids do you have?
One
What are the ages?
2 months
Boy(s) or girl(s)?
A boy
How old were you when you had your first child?
19
Was it planned?
nope... big surprise!
Do you regret it?
NEVER!!
When were your kid(s) born?
April 19, 2009
Do you plan on having more?
yes in the future....
Do you have more than one baby daddy/momma?
Nope!
Do you love your baby daddy/momma/
Yes I do, with all my heart!!
Are you stiil with this person?
Yes I am
Are you married to this person?
Yes I am...
Is this person a good parent to your kid(s)?
Hell yea. he is a great dad!
Do you live with this person
I assume so since I am married to him
Do you have a happy family?
yes we do..
Do your kid(s) look like you or the dad/mom?
he looks like his daddy!!
Do your kids have proud grandparents?
yes he does.. he is already spoiled!
What did you want your kid(s) first words to be?
mommy of course!!
What was their first words?
he hasnt started talking yet!
Is being a parent hard?
sometimes!
Do you put your kid(s) before everything?
Of course I do..
Do you have a job?
I am a stay at home mom right now!!
Is your child in school or grown up?
Nope.. still an infant!
If yo plan to have more wiil it be with a previous baby daddy/momma?
Yes of course.. I wouldnt have a baby with anyone else!!
Is that person the love of your life?
yes with all my heart!!
Do you have a mommas boy or a daddys little girl?
mommy's boy I think!!
Are you looking forward to being a grandparent someday?
woof!! Thats a long time away!!























Soldier Poem

For all the free people that still protest. You're welcome.
We protect you and you are protected by the best.
Your voice is strong and loud, but who will fight for you?
No one standing in your crowd.

We are your fathers, brothers, and sons,
wearing the boots and carrying guns.
We are the ones that leave all we own,
to make sure your future is carved in stone.

We are the ones who fight and die,
We might not be able to save the world,
Well, at least we try.
We walked the paths to where we are at
and we want no choice other than that.

So when you rally your group to complain,
take a look in the back of your brain.
In order for that flag you love to fly
wars must be fought and young men must die.

We came here to fight for the ones we hold dear.
If that's not respected,
we would rather stay here.
So please stop yelling, put down your signs,
and pray for those behind enemy lines.

And then when the conflict is over and all is well,
be thankful that we chose to go through hell.












http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uanVGjHCAHA

Just wanted to stop by your page and say hey! Haven't talked to you in a while so I hope all is well. The "big" ultrasound is scheduled for December 1st at 1 p.m. (CST). I can't wait for them to tell me "It's a girl!"   Just kidding, just kidding. But only two people have said they think it's a girl, Brad and his dad. lol